You Deserve More Than Someone Who Puts You Second

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You deserve more than someone who puts doubt in your mind. You deserve more than someone who makes you sit up at night, wondering whether you are going to become an official couple or whether you are destined to stay just friends. You deserve more than someone that confuses you every time that they open their mouth, because one second it seems like they are interested and the next second they are acting distant again. You deserve more than someone who sends mixed signals that you waste hours interpreting instead of treating you with respect by speaking to you from their heart.

You deserve more than someone who treats you like a second choice. You deserve more than someone who sets plans with you at the last second because they wanted to keep their options open in case something better came along. You deserve more than someone who looks at their phone, sees your name, and waits to answer your text because they don’t consider answering you a priority. You deserve more than someone who swears up and down that they miss you and cannot wait to see you, but spends all of their time with you checking their phone and checking out other people.

You deserve more than someone who refuses to put in effort. You deserve more than someone who expects you to treat them like royalty while they sit on their ass doing nothing. You deserve more than someone who has high expectations for what you look like and how fast you respond to texts, even though they don’t hold themselves to those same standards. You deserve more than someone who thinks that a one-sided love is fair to you.

You deserve more than someone who hesitates to enter a relationship with you. You deserve more than someone who keeps talking about how they aren’t sure if they are ready for a real relationship because they have been hurt before. You deserve more than someone who pushes to keep things casual even though they see that you want so much more than that. You deserve more than someone who isn’t entirely sure whether you are the person worth risking it all for.

What you do deserve is someone who is going to delete their dating apps, change their relationship status, post photos of you on their social media, introduce you as their girlfriend, and take you home to meet their parents.

You deserve someone who is going to plan dates at least a week ahead of time, spend days searching for the perfect presents for your birthday, give you massages when you come home stressed from work, remember the little things that make you smile, and treat you with respect regardless of what kind of mood they are in.

You deserve someone who convinces you that they aren’t going anywhere. Someone who treats you like a first priority. Someone who puts in actual effort to keep you happy. Someone who jumps into a serious relationship with you, because they know that you are worth the risk. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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