1. Be expressive. It’s okay if your orgasm face makes you look like you’re in pain. She wants to see that her hard work is actually paying off, so don’t hold back. What you find silly, she’ll probably find sexy.

2. Look down at her so she knows that you’re not fantasizing about the hot waitress you gave a twenty dollar tip to at dinner.

3. Tell her how amazing her skin, her lips, and her tongue feel against your cock.

4. Then tell her how hot she looks. Compliment her eyes, her tits, her ass–anything that turns you on.

5. It’s more than okay to play with her hair or to grab the back of it. Just don’t use your hold on her to force yourself down her throat. Let her do her thing.

6. Speaking of letting her do her thing, resist the urge to thrust your hips. If you force your cock so far down that it hits her gag reflex, neither of you are going to have a great time.

7. Moan. Don’t hold any of those sexy sounds back. Make it clear that you’re beyond thrilled she’s decided to go down on you.

8. Oral doesn’t have to be fueled by dirty talk. You can tell her you love her, too. Those sweet words will encourage her to make you orgasm as hard as she possibly can.

9. Bite your lip. Clench your fists. Do little things that show her you’re having the best fucking time of your life.

10. Give her instructions–but only realistic ones. If you want her to go slower, let her know. But don’t tell her to go deeper, because she might not be physically capable of doing that without vomiting on your lap.

11. Ask her if she’s comfortable. If she’s in a weird position with her neck craned and back hunched, move around until you’re both in a better position. She’ll appreciate your thoughtfulness.

12. Tell her, in detail, all the ways you’re going to return the favor after you orgasm. When she hears you talking about licking her pussy, she’ll be even more enthusiastic about sucking your cock.

13. Focus all of your energy on what’s happening below the belt. Now is not the time to grab your phone or to glance up at the television to see what types of shenanigans Ray Romano is up to. You’re getting your dick sucked. Enjoy it.

14. When she needs a break to rest her jaw, don’t make her feel like shit. Dirty talk to keep her in the moment. You could even lift her onto your lap and start kissing her, so she has a chance to rest.

15. Now, this should happen before the blowjob actually starts, but try to add more pineapple and cinnamon to your diet, so your semen tastes delicious. It’ll make her more likely to swallow in the future.

16. Tell her when you’re coming close to cumming, so she’s prepared. If she doesn’t actually want to swallow your load, then it’ll give her time to move her mouth away.

17. Not all orgasms are created equal, so when you finish, tell her how good it all felt. Remind her that she’s amazing at what she does, so she’s eager to do it again.

18. When it’s all said and done, cuddle her. Make it clear that you love her for her, and not just for her spectacular blowjob skills.