1. The “Have a good night!” text.
People read this as flirty and think it opens the door up to a “sweet dreams baby”-type response. No. Wrong. She doesn’t want to dream about you. She’s politely trying to end the conversation. “Have a good night” does not mean she is going to sleep thinking about you. It’s a world away from “Good night ;).”
2. The “Work is crazy right now talk to you later” text.
There’s no apology, nor is there any punctuation. That’s because it’s a text sent from one friend to another. This isn’t an invitation for you to say, “oh no, bad week? I can come over and make it better.” Really, it’s just a text she sends when she has better things to do than respond to you.
3. The less-than-5-word text.
This is a strategic way to avoid blatantly ending the conversation. She doesn’t want to be rude so this exit is disguised as a participatory response.
Example: A guy tells a joke and the girl responds, “oh lol!” She’s not necessarily discouraging you, but she didn’t leave anywhere for the conversation to go. She’s hoping you stop responding first so she doesn’t have to.
4. The “Can’t talk now, I’m having a girls night” text.
This is a real thing. Sometimes girls like to gather and decide that “no boys allowed” includes anyone on the receiving end of their texts. To be honest though, if a lady’s really into you she’ll find a way around that rule or she’ll definitively say that she intends to text you back later.
5. The after the fact response.
Sample conversation:
Potential suitor: Hey, are you free this Friday? Maybe we could have a drink.
Girl (on Sunday): Sorry, this week totally got away from me! Did you have a good weekend?
6. The response that pushes for a group hang out.
If this happens to you, accept it: She’s not interested in you sexually. She really just likes you as a friend. So she strategically only invites you to things she knows will become group events. This is the text that reads, “Hey, I can’t do drinks on Friday but (insert mutual friend here) is having a party Saturday. You should come!” If she wanted to sleep with you, she’d be trying to see you one-on-one.
